LifeServices understands that everyone wants to live at home.
Joining a community is a big decision for families and we know that you have several questions about this potentially life changing event.
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My Mother says, “I’m not ready yet”, but all of us as family are doing all that we can, and it’s not enough
as compared to the help she needs daily. When is it time to seriously consider assisted living for a loved one?
Do you think Mom is being realistic about everyone’s ability to meet her care needs daily at home? Try as you
might to meet her needs, are you truly doing all that she needs? If you answered ‘“no”, It’s time to call us.
We can help with an affordable private apartment and all the quality care she needs and wants.
My Mother needs a lot of help to able to live in her own home now and, regrettably, there’s only me, really,
as to someone who can help her. Other family help as they can, but they’re so busy, they can’t really help, and
they can see I’m exhausted. What are my options?
We know what an incredible job families, particularly adult children, are doing in supporting their parents who want
to live in their own home for as long as they can. But, are you spending so much time helping with basic care needs she
can’t do herself, you don’t get to enjoy Mom anymore? Is she embarrassed and you are exhausted? If the answer is yes,
I stop by Dad’s every day and help as I can. I have home health aides visit but they don’t honor their
schedule othen and aides constantly change. It’s expensive, I work full time, and my instincts say it’s not enough.
What should I do?
First, trust your instincts. If it feels like something “isn’t right”, then something probably isn’t right.
For example, many of our new residents who first join our Communities are actually suffering from both dehydration and
malnutrition despite the efforts of caring, exhausted, adult children.
We have marveled at the improvement we see in new residents after thirty days of three, home cooked meals, other
drinks in addition to coffee and tea, and proper medication management.
My Mother lives alone in her own home, she takes excellent care of herself, and she is very independent.
But, she doesn’t drive anymore, she hardly ever gets out of the house unless one of us takes her, and when it’s
time for us to leave, she wears a brave smile, but I can tell Mom doesn’t want us to go yet. Is there something more
that I can do?
While it’s great that your Mom is living so independently, this situation can have its drawbacks, too,
especially over time. Gerontological research has long shown that the single greatest factor causing functional
decline in older people, other than the physical aspects of aging, is “social isolation.”
People need to be around people. Our residents can choose to participate in a full range of
activities throughout the day and evening with their neighbors. Or, they can enjoy the privacy and quiet of
their Apartment Home. Finally, Mom can still be part of the greater community by traveling with neighbors to
community events and outings with our Community van.
My Father’s Doctor has said that I need to place Dad in a nursing home. Doctor says he can’t live at home
anymore and needs skilled care. I can’t bear to do that, but I also don’t understand why exactly. Sure, he needs
a lot of help with his daily routines, and I admit he’s confused a lot of the time, but why a nursing home?
Doctor is historically trained to think, “Home care isn’t working. Nursing home now.” But, long term help with
everyday activities like dressing, bathing, grooming, medication help, and memory care support, doesn’t need a nurse.
And, at our Communities a full time registered nurse is always available if needed. Best of all, it’s all available in
Dad’s own apartment home.
My Mother has been diagnosed with dementia and can no longer live at home independently. Both her doctors and
facilities I have visited are advising me that I need to place her in a secured dementia unit. Is that our only option?
Do your Communities provide residency and care to people with dementia?
Yes, all of our LifeServices Communities successfully support residents struggling with this horrible disease
as part of our overall Community residents. Our experience shows “many to most” seniors with dementia can succeed at
our Community with a customized Plan of Care that avoids a lockdown unit by using our unique building design features
and specialized programming.